tatva for life

Tatva for life ....
The other day I received a mail and surprisingly had the patience to read the whole stuff ..... believe me, it was worth a shot.... I felt the best thing I could do is to share it with all...... kisko patha.... yeh baat kab kiske kaam ajaaye :)
Here goes the tatva.....

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfilment. Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO!!








Hope you liked what you read :)

Never gone ............

I was listening to this beautiful song and and then I wanted to listen to it again and again..... this song had some sort of pull.... and someone kept ruling my heart and mind all thru this song .....
Hmmm I was able to feel each and every word ..... it sounded so meaningful and apt to my feelings for this person ...... I simply could not resist but write about this song
The song goes like this :

The things we did ....
the things we said.....
keep coming back to me and make me smile again
u showed me how to face the truth....
everything thats good in me i owe to you.....
though the distance thats between us now may seem to be too far .......
it will never seperate us......
deep inside I know u aree .......
Never Gone....
never far .....
in my heart is where u are .....
always close .....
everyday....
every step along the way ......
even though for now we 've gottu say goodbyee ....
i know u will be forever in my life .....
never gone .....

I walk alone these empty streets .....
there is not a second your not here with me .....
the love you gave....
the grace you showed....
will always give me strength and be my corner stone......
so how you found a way to see the best i have in me....
as long as time goes on I swear to you that you will be.......
Never gone .....
never far .....
in my heart is where you are .....
always close.....
everyday.....
every step along the way.....
even though for now we 've gottu say goodbyee ....
i know u will be forever in my life .....
never gone from me is the onething I believe :)


I dedicate it to this one person who has carved my life so well that I have no regrets about who I am today ....... the one important person in my life .....the one man whom I always have and always will admire the most ....the man whom I love the most ......
and that one man is none other than
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my very own sweet father :)

Love u daddy